Intelligent Intoxication

CHASING AND ESCAPING AT THE EXPENSE OF FEELING FREE

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life. 
 
“My favorite way to think about soul power is the quality of being radically FREE, because one is neither trying to escape something, nor chase something.”
Simone Grace Seol
 
When we are in the habit of CHASING “something more”, we are likely:
stuck in comparisonitis
feeling envious or jealous
believing that “there” will be better than “here”
We CHASE because:
we don’t think we’re enough, whole, worthy, or valuable
we’re trying to prove our worthiness
we’re seeking approval, permission, or validation
When we CHASE, we get the immediate yet temporary BENEFIT of looking forward and/or living in anticipation. Yet, the habit of chasing is costing the opportunity to receive and enjoy abundance in the present moment. 
When we are in the habit of ESCAPING, we are likely:
numbing or avoiding by engaging in:overeating
overdrinking
overworking
overcommitting
over-Netflix-ing
over-scrolling
overthinking
detached from our body and emotions
procrastinating
blaming others
We ESCAPE because:
it hurts too much not to
our emotions are too hard to feel
it feels unsafe to be in the present moment
When we ESCAPE, we get the immediate yet temporary BENEFIT of avoiding what we don’t want to feel. Yet, the habit of ESCAPING is costing us the opportunity to feel, process, and move through our emotions and past traumas. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
How willing are you to seek the help you may need in order to stop chasing or escaping?
In order to feel radically free, what must I be willing to stop escaping?
In order to feel radically free, what must I be willing to stop chasing?
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Why You're Not Thriving In The Second Half Of Life

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life. 
 
I’ve noticed a considerable difference between men and women who thrive in the second half of life and those who don’t. I offer my observations for your consideration. People who thrive:
don’t try to rewind to the past by focusing on how much better it was and wanting to go back in time. They invest their time and energy into the present while planning for their future. 
exercise, eat well, and sleep. 
create and maintain meaningful connections with others. 
tell themselves the truth about what they want, what they don’t, what they’ll tolerate, what they won’t, what they’re willing or not willing to do or be.
are not attached to being needed - they’re committed to being wanted. 
are making progress personally and professionally. 
are or have been counseled and/or coached. 
they don’t do what they don’t want to do. 
don’t give or accept guilt trips.
are willing to seek help and support.  
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
How willing are you to thrive?
How willing are you to stop blaming yourself or others for why you’re not thriving yet?
How willing are you to stop arguing with non-negotiables?
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. You don’t have to make changes alone. I’d love to support you exactly where you are: 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
If my scheduler doesn’t have an appointment time that works for you, please contact me directly for availability:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How You're Limiting What You Really Want

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life. 
 
You’re either lit up, alive, inspired, and fulfilled in your personal and professional life, or you’re not. Yet. If you’re not, it’s likely because you’re not:
challenging yourself and making continuous progress
utilizing your inherent gifts to make the contribution only you can make to others
prioritizing the pursuit of your passionate talents
 
In his best-selling book The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear And Take Your Life To The Next Level, author Gay Hendricks explains that we spend our time doing tasks or activities in four main “zones”:
Incompetence: the things we’re not good at that others do better. 
Competence: the things we’re good enough at that others do as well. 
Excellence: the things you do extremely well yet aren’t fulfilling. 
Genius: the things you are uniquely suited to do as they utilize your inherent gifts and passionate talents. These activities will allow you to feel lit up, alive,  inspired, and deeply fulfilled. 
 
The author teaches a concept he refers to as an “Upper Limit Problem”:
“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back in to the old, familiar zone where we feel secure… our Upper Limit thermostat setting holds us back from enjoying all the love, financial abundance, and creativity that‘s rightfully ours… this is the Upper Limit Problem in a nutshell; that subconscious self-sabotage that happens when we get a taste of something great… “
 
“… the one problem that holds you back… I call it the Upper Limit Problem, and I haven’t met a person yet who didn’t suffer at least a little bit from it. Even if you’re extravagantly successful, I can promise you that your own version of the Upper Limit Problem is still holding you back from achieving your true potential.”
 
I invite you to take these immediately actionable steps:
 
Answer these questions (preferably on paper):
What do I really want for my professional and personal life? 
What am I currently believing is limiting or preventing me from having it?
 
I encourage you to complete this prompt:
“I can’t have BLANK because I’m BLANK.”
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. You don’t have to make changes alone. I’d love to support you exactly where you are: 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
If my scheduler doesn’t have an appointment time that works for you, please contact me directly for availability:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Stop Dilluting The Real You

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life. 
 
You’re either lit up, alive, inspired, and fulfilled in your personal and professional life, or you’re not. Yet. If you’re not, it’s likely because you’re not:
challenging yourself and making continuous progress
utilizing your inherent gifts to make the contribution only you can make to others
prioritizing the pursuit of your passionate talents
 
In his best-selling book The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear And Take Your Life To The Next Level, author Gay Hendricks explains that we spend our time doing tasks or activities in four main “zones”:
Incompetence: the things we’re not good at that others do better. 
Competence: the things we’re good enough at that others do as well. 
Excellence: the things you do extremely well yet aren’t fulfilling. 
Genius: the things you are uniquely suited to do as they utilize your inherent gifts and passionate talents. These activities will allow you to feel lit up, alive,  inspired, and deeply fulfilled. 
 
I invite you to take these immediately actionable steps:
Delegate or ditch tasks and activities that you aren’t skilled to do. (Your Inner Critic may have you believe that you should be able to do these things, because if you can’t, then it means that you’re insufficient or inadequate.)
Delegate or ditch tasks and activities that you’re skilled to do, yet so are others.(Your Inner Critic may have you believe that because you can do these things, you should do them.)
Limit and/or transition out of the tasks or activities that you do extremely well IF they aren’t challenging you to make progress, feel fulfilled, or make a unique contribution to others. (Your Inner Critic may have you believe that you will be letting down others if you stop doing these things. Others may not approve of your decision to stop these activities, but that doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong.)
Identify your inherent gifts and passions. Prioritize developing and utilizing these unique strengths and talents. 
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. You don’t have to make changes alone. I’d love to support you exactly where you are: 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
If my scheduler doesn’t have an appointment time that works for you, please contact me directly for availability:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

You Are Invited...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Get Your Copy Here
After 670 daily episodes, it’s officially time to wrap up the first season of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast. In fact, this is the final episode of Season One. 
 
Consider this your official invitation to Season 2!
Wednesday February 15, 2024. 
5pm
 
Which topics or areas of focus would you like to recommend for the podcast? Please pour your ideas my way:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
To grab a copy of my book, click below:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. 
 
I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want. 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 
Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:
Better Help

Wrapping Up Season One- Ch Ch Ch Changes

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Get Your Copy Here
 
After 670 daily episodes, it’s officially time to wrap up the first season of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast. 
 
Here are some of the changes coming your way:
the daily podcast will transition into a weekly podcast
step-by-step plans to apply what you’ve learned
a new tagline… it’s a mystery… 
opportunities to decide which topics you’d like to hear on the podcast
 
Which topics or areas of focus would you like to recommend for the podcast? Please pour your ideas my way:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
To grab a copy of my book, click below:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. 
 
I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want. 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 
Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:
Better Help

Wrapping Up Season One- What I've Learned

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Get Your Copy Here
 
After 670 daily episodes, it’s officially time to wrap up the first season of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast. This is the perfect opportunity to reflect on what I’ve learned:
you never will be ready - you just need to be willing
confusion isn’t problem - it’s a reminder to remain present and discern the one next actionable step
you must create consistency in a manner that aligns with who you really are
done is better than perfect
sometime your best is C+ work
comparing my progress to someone else’s steals my sense of abundance and gratitude
create an audience in advance for what you want to create
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
How willing are you to begin?
How willing are you to use confusion to clarify your one next step?
How willing are you to lean into your own type of consistency?
How willing are you to finish, rather than to perfect?
 
To grab a copy of my book, click below:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. 
 
I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want. 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 
Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:
Better Help
 

When You Seek Permission - Not Help

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Get Your Copy Here
 
There are times when we all reach out for “help” from others when what we are really seeking is the permission to trust ourselves and do what we need to do to have our own back. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice seeking permission to trust yourself?
What do you do or feel when permission is denied?
What do you deny yourself the permission to be or do?
 
To grab a copy of my book, click below:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. 
 
I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want. 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 
Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:
Better Help

Contribution Confidentiality

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Get Your Copy Here
 
In my not-so-humble opinion, we are here to offer meaningful, impactful contributions to others. However, if you need attention or an audience for your contributions, you may be tipping into virtue-signaling. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice needing attention for your contributions?
If no one noticed your contributions, would you still offer them? Why or why not?
 
To grab a copy of my book, click below:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. 
 
I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want. 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 
Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:
Better Help

How To Protect Your NOs

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Get Your Copy Here
 
If you’re in the habit of saying YES even when you mean NO or NOT YET, changing this habit requires smalls shifts:
identify how YES or NO shows up in your body
tell yourself the truth about your YES or NOs
practice saying NO to things you aren’t:willing to do
capable of doing 
anticipate this feeling really uncomfortable
if you resist saying NO, get curious about what your brain is telling you might be the worst thing another person may:think
feel
say about you
once you’re in the habit of identifying and communicating your NOs to others, pay attention to how you respond when others don’t respect your NOs. do you give in?
do you react?
do you clarify your NO“If you’d like me to deliver this for you, please have it on my porch by tomorrow morning by 8. If it’s not there when I leave at 8, I’ll assume you decided to handle the delivery yourself.”
If they deliver the item after you’ve already left, remind them of your initial boundary:“If you’ll remember, I mentioned that I was leaving to deliver the items I had by 8. Please grab your item and make other plans as I’ve already gone.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
What might prevent you from protecting your NO?
How willing are you to accept that you are intentionally choosing to feel resentment or bitterness rather than discomfort if you don’t protect your NO?
 
To grab a copy of my book, click below:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. 
 
I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want. 
Happy Hour Call With Terri
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 
Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:
Better Help