Intelligent Intoxication

When Your To-Do List’s Overwhelming

We tend to procrastinate, avoid, or put off tasks on our “To-Do” lists that feel too complicated, too hard, or too painful. 
We can break down painfully hard tasks into small, actionable, “easy” steps. 
Instead of writing down “finish my taxes”, try writing down the one, next, small, actionable step to take: “Print Amazon receipts for January 2022.”
Once it’s done, cross it out. 
By doing this, you’ll create momentum and reward your brain with small, easy, quick wins. 
Invite you to consider these questions:
What types of tasks do you tend to procrastinate beginning or finishing?
How can you break these tasks down into small, easy, quick, actionable steps?
How can you make your tasks or chores pleasurable, easeful, and pain-free?
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You Care What Others Think

As human beings who desire and thrive on connection to other people, we are triggered when other people don’t like us or have negative opinions or thoughts about us. But, there’s a difference between “caring” what others think AND basing your decisions and choices on your attachment to what they think or feel about you. 
 
Invite you to consider these questions:
Whose opinion matters too much to you?
Who do you get triggered by?
What’s the worst thing someone else might think, feel, or say about you?
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But I Like This More

When we say “I like THIS - but I like THAT more,” we simultaneously acknowledge that we do like engaging in habits or actions that don’t serve us long term AND we prefer to do something even better. 
“I really like eating sugar and flour AND I like how I feel without it MORE.”
“I really like drinking wine AND I like sleeping well and waking up refreshed MORE.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
What do you “really like” AND you’d  like to do less of it, take a break from it, or stop doing it?
What might you like more than your current habit?
What do you really love doing that you want to stop or take a break from?
 
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It’s Not OK To Treat Others Like Sh*t

You must know what’s OK and what’s NOT OK in the relationships you have to OTHERS. 
It’s NOT OK to:
shame or guilt another person
blame them for your feelings
lash out at others when you’re angry or triggered
expect another person to be 100% compatible with you
expect others to anticipate or assume what you need
self-sacrifice to meet the needs of others
push yourself past your capacity 
act like a “Debbie Downer” and complain all the time
act like an “Energy Vampire” and suck the energy from others
It’s OK to:
feel guilty when, according only to you, you’ve behaved in a manner you’re not proud of
share what you’ve felt AFTER you feel it and learn from it
buy yourself the time to take care of your body when triggered:“I’m a little off right and I need to process this. I’ll circle back and let you know when I’m ready to talk about it.”
not feel like you have to love or do what the other person loves or does
communicate your needs or wants to others
say NO when you aren’t willing or able to meet the expectations of others
share your feelings and experiences vulnerably with others
intentionally decide not to spend time with “Debbie Downers” or “Energy Vampires”
When do you notice:
feeling ashamed or guilty for the emotions of others?
using the phrase: “You made me feel… “?
your body going into A.L.A.R.M.?A = abuse
L = loss
A = abandonment
R = rejection
M = forced maturity
criticizing others when they’re incompatible with you?
reacting to anger and lashing out?
expecting others to be just like you?
expecting others to anticipate your needs and wants?
sacrificing your health and well-being to meet the needs of others?
pushing yourself past your capacity?
being the “audience” for a complainer?
complaining for attention?
allowing someone to “drain” your energy?
depending on others to be your joy?
When do you notice being willing to:
allow others to take responsibility for the part they played?
decide, according only to your own values, when you are willing to learn from guilt?
feel discomfort when someone is hurt or disappointed with you?
meet your own compatibility wants and needs?
prioritize taking care of yourself?
create your own joy?
commit to solving your problems - not advertising them?
create your own happiness and joy?
Anxiety Rx by Russell Kennedy, MD
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It’s Not OK To Treat Yourself Like Sh*t

You must know what’s OK and what’s NOT OK in  the relationship you have to YOURSELF. 
It’s NOT OK:
to blame yourself or feel at “fault” for having:a neurodivergent brain
experiencing anxiety or depression
having ADD or ADHD
feeling what you feel
to avoid taking responsibility for your brain, mental health, or emotions
label yourself:“I’m a procrastinator, a flake, stupid, bad… “
to SHOULD yourself:“I should be/do/feel… “
to use “black and white thinking words” like:good/bad
right/wrong
selfish
to allow stress to go unaddressed and unmanaged
to ignore your anger
to lie to yourself
Here’s what’s OK in the relationship to yourself:
taking responsibility for your circumstances, mental health, and emotions
creating new identities for yourself
intentionally choosing new vocabulary to empower yourself
feeling stressed, getting triggered, having stress cycles, and closing the cycles daily
feeling anger all the way through
telling yourself the truth AND giving yourself the permission to assume a holding pattern until you have clarity
When do you notice:
blaming yourself?
telling yourself it’s all your “fault”?
labeling yourself?
using words like “good” or “bad”?
ignoring or avoiding your stress?
reacting to anger and lashing out at yourself or others?
lying to yourself?
When do you notice being willing to:
take responsibility for your life and circumstances?
create new identities?
stop using “triggering” words and replace them with empowering words?
notice your stress triggers, stress cycles, and actively close the stress cycles daily?
feel your anger all the way through until the URGENCY dissipates?
“buy yourself the time” to calm your body and get curious about the cause of your anger, hurt, or fear?
telling yourself the truth without forcing yourself to do anything about it yet?
 
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When To Accept Your Fate

Amor Fati is a latin phrase that means to “love one’s fate”. If we “love” our fate or circumstances, it means that we resist arguing with “what is” and we accept them as they are. 
 
However, before we are ready to champion “loving our fate”, we must first feel and heal “what ails us”. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When you revisit difficult or challenging circumstances from your past, have you felt them and grieved them all the way through?
When you get triggered now, are you willing to ask yourself and your body: “What do I need now?” “How can I have my own back?”
What blessings or lessons have you gained from difficult circumstances?
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Insufficient Success

Thank you for listening to this podcast - because of YOU, we have achieved almost 15,000 downloads! I’m so incredibly grateful for you!
 
When we judge our “success” as inadequate, insufficient, or “not enough”, we are in lack and blocking additional progress and abundance. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice achieving results and still feeling like a “failure”?
When do you notice comparing your “beginning” to someone’s else’s “middle” or “end”?
When do you notice getting stuck in comparisonitis because your results feel inferior?
When do you notice judging a “successful” person in order to compete with them by feeling superior?
When do you notice looking at your “success” as “losing”?
How willing are you to celebrate your “continuous progress”?
 
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You Need To Assess Your Progress

There are five elements or components of differentiation:
 
content (what you to need to learn)
process (how you learn it and how you apply it)
product (what you create and who you create it for)
environment (the circumstances you require in which to change)
assessment (how you’ll measure your progress)
 
Teaching Gifted Kids in the Regular Classroom by Susan Winebrenner.
 
If you want to make your life different, you must ASSESS your growth in order to make sure that you’re satisfied with your continuous progress. I invite you to consider:
 
being clear about where you’re starting. Are you:frustrated or impatient in your life?
angry or resentful?
disappointed?
bored?
exhausted, depleted, or in burnout?
stressed?
anxious or depressed?
flat or lethargic?
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
 
Are you excited to:get up in the morning to face the day?
go to work?
spend time with the people in your life?
be home?
be away from home?
Am I intentionally:nourishing my body with energizing foods and water?
“buying back time” to do what you really want to do?
getting the sleep and rest I need?
saying NO to anything that’s not a HELL YES?
 
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You Need A Different Environment

There are five elements or components of differentiation:
 
content (what you to need to learn)
process (how you learn it and how you apply it)
product (what you create and who you create it for)
environment (the circumstances you require in which to change)
assessment (how you’ll measure your progress)
 
Teaching Gifted Kids in the Regular Classroom by Susan Winebrenner.
 
If you want to make your life different, you may need to change your ENVIRONMENT. Your ENVIRONMENT can be:
 
your actual physical space or setting
the circumstances of your life:your relationships 
your job, career, calling
your health or well-being
your time or schedule
the amount of time you spend:alone
with others
in group settings
with a mentor, teacher, or coach
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
 
How might your current environment or circumstances be contributing to your underachievement?
What about your physical space feels conducive to the results you want to create? What doesn’t?
Which relationships need to shift or end?
Is your job or career keeping you stuck in underachievement?
Do you have enough time:alone?
with others?
in group settings?
Am  I able to create the “different” I want on my own?
Do I need an accountability partner or mentor/coach to support me?
Do I need a group of people?
 
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You Need To Create A Product For Your Audience

There are five elements or components of differentiation:
 
content (what you to need to learn)
process (how you learn it and how you apply it)
product (what you create and who you create it for)
environment (the circumstances you require in which to change)
assessment (how you’ll measure your progress)
 
Teaching Gifted Kids in the Regular Classroom by Susan Winebrenner.
 
If you want to make your life different, you must start creating PRODUCTS for an AUDIENCE. A PRODUCT is anything you create using your gifts and talents with the intention to share it with an AUDIENCE. An AUDIENCE is one other person with whom you can share your creation. 
 
A PRODUCT can be:
 
helping someone
baking or cooking something
writing a letter, post, email or text to support someone
creating a beautiful home for your family
a genuine compliment for a complete stranger
hosting a dinner or book club
planning a trip or getaway
 
An AUDIENCE can be:
 
a friend
a spouse or partner
a family member
a neighbor or colleague
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
 
What am I excited to learn more about?
What can I create with my new information and understanding?
Who might be interested in my product?
 
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