Intelligent Intoxication

Repelling Others With Negativity

There are “toxic” habits that tend to be repellent to others in relationships:
Negativity
Victim Mentality
Over-Sensitivity
Over-reactivity
Neediness/Clinginess
(Inspired by Kathy Caprino’s “Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away” post.)
If you are in a NEGATIVITY habit, you may be:
showing up like a “Debbie Downer”
refusing to the see the positive
complaining and criticizing
I invite you to consider these questions about having a NEGATIVITY habit:
What do you tend to think or believe when you’re stuck in this habit?
What do you tend to feel?
What actions are you taking or not taking?
How does having a NEGATIVITY habit temporarily benefit you?
What is a NEGATIVITY habit costing you?
When do you notice connecting with someone who has a NEGATIVITY habit?
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Are You Motivated By Potential Loss or Gain?

Some of us are motivated by the potential of LOSS, whereas others of us are motivated by the potential of GAIN. 
 
If you’re motivated by AVOIDING LOSS, you may be a terrific candidate for an app like Stikk. You can read more about it below:
All About Stikk
“.. Stikk works by helping people eliminate this gap (between having a goal and achieving it) by using, what we call, a Commitment Contract. A Commitment Contract is a binding agreement you sign with yourself to ensure that you follow through with your intentions—and it does this by utilizing the psychological power of loss aversion and accountability to drive behavior change. By asking our users to sign Commitment Contracts, Stikk helps users define their goal (whatever it may be), acknowledge what it’ll take to accomplish it, and leverage the power of putting money on the line to turn that goal into a reality.”
If you’re motivated by ENSURING GAIN, you might need to build REWARDS into your goal-achieving process. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice being motivated by fear of LOSS?
When do you notice being motivated by the hope of GAIN?
How can you use this tendency to build in accountability to your goal-achieving habit?
What are you thinking when you’re working towards a goal? Does it serve you to think this?
What are you feeling when you’re working towards a goal? Does it serve you to feel this?
What are you actually doing when you’re working towards a goal? Does it serve you to take these steps? Are they actionable?
 
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Making Arbitrary Deadlines Real

I have a habit of resisting “arbitrary” deadlines. An “arbitrary” deadline is typically a task, commitment, or goal with a “pretend” due date. 
If you, too, struggle at times with “arbitrary” deadlines or to achieve your goals, check out the Stikk app here:
All About Stikk
 
“.. Stikk works by helping people eliminate this gap (between having a goal and achieving it) by using, what we call, a Commitment Contract. A Commitment Contract is a binding agreement you sign with yourself to ensure that you follow through with your intentions—and it does this by utilizing the psychological power of loss aversion and accountability to drive behavior change. By asking our users to sign Commitment Contracts, Stikk helps users define their goal (whatever it may be), acknowledge what it’ll take to accomplish it, and leverage the power of putting money on the line to turn that goal into a reality.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
Which of your goals or “arbitrary” deadlines are you struggling to uphold?
How can you make your “arbitrary” deadlines or goals more “real”?
Why type of accountability do you really need to achieve your goals?
Is the potential loss of money (if you don’t achieve a goal) a motivator for you?
 
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Exfoliating Your Skin And Life

Having a “skin care” habit is much like engaging in personal development work:
You start using new products. Initially, your skin looks the same.  (You increase your self-awareness and start applying what you’re learning at first things don’t seem to change.)
Eventually, your skin “reacts” or “responds” to the lotions or products. (You start to make some change and get “triggered” and may assume that you’re “doing it wrong” or that it’s “not working”.)
Your dead skin begins to slough off. (Getting triggered is an opportunity to bring up and work through a different area of your life or work.)
Your skin begins to glow. (You’ve leveled up BECAUSE of the triggering - not in spite of it.)
I invite you to consider these questions:
What new things are you currently learning to increase your self-awareness?
What triggers you the most:relationships?
body image?
money?
social status?
health?
relatives?
something else?
What are your triggers coming up to teach you?
What new version of you are you being called to grow into?
 
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You Must Have a Third Place

There is a small chain of fun and comfortable bookstores in Seattle called Third Place Books in which community members are invited to “browse, linger, lounge, relax, read, eat, laugh, play, talk, listen, and just watch the world go by”.
“Sociologist Ray Oldenberg suggests that each of us needs three places: first is the home; second is the workplace or school; and beyond lies the place where people from all walks of life interact, experiencing and celebrating their commonality as well as their diversity. It is a third place. In his celebrated book, The Great Good Place, Oldenberg discusses how the cafes, pubs, town squares, and other gathering places make a community stronger and bring people together.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
When you are in your HOME place, what do you intend to do, accomplish, or experience there?
When you are in your WORK place, what do you intend to do, accomplish, or experience there?
Where is your THIRD PLACE? When you visit your third place, what do you intend to do, accomplish, or experience there?
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When You Self-Sabotage By Isolating

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:
identify
accept
learn from
work with
our parts. 
In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:
Indulgers
Controllers
Caretakers
Rebels
Inner Critics
Isolators
The Isolator Part interferes with creating healthy connections with others. 
Here are the Isolator archetypes or “flavors”:
Diminisher: “You’re not important and your needs don’t matter.”
Procrastinator: “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
Cynic: “Don’t trust anyone - they’ll just disappoint you.”
Soloist: “I’ll do so much better alone.”
Workaholic: “I don’t have time for friends - I’m too busy.”
Secret Keeper: “I’m too ashamed - I can’t tell anyone.”
Incognito: “I’m only safe if I’m invisible.”
Misfit: “I don’t want to belong.”
One-Night Stander: “I’ll be physically close to others but not emotionally vulnerable.”
Luddite: “I don’t do social media.”
Screen Addict: “If I stare at my phone I can avoid interacting with people.”
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice your Isolator Part trying to protect you from experiencing rejection, disappointment, or exclusion?
What type of Isolator resonates most with you?
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When Rebellion is Self-Sabotage

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:
identify
accept
learn from
work with
our parts. 
In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:
Indulgers
Controllers
Caretakers
Rebels
Inner Critics
Isolators
The Rebel Part wants to keep you stuck in the “known” or “familiar”. 
Here are the Rebel archetypes or “flavors”:
Angry Teenager: “I’ll reject any guidance or mentorship. I’ll be in charge.”
Underachiever: “If I don’t really commit and fail, I can say that I half-assed it.”
Questioner: “I won’t do anything I don’t agree with.”
Dominant: “I will not be controlled by anyone, ever!”
Butterfly: “Oops… I just got distracted again… “
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice a Rebel part trying to protect you?
What type of Rebel part resonates most with you?
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How To Stop Your Critic From Sabotaging You

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:
identify
accept
learn from
work with
our parts. 
In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:
Indulgers
Controllers
Caretakers
Rebels
Inner Critics
Isolators
The Inner Critic Part wants to “shape you up” and keep you attached to and loved by others. 
Here are the Inner Critic archetypes or “flavors”:
Perfectionist: “If I can just get them to look and act perfect… “
Guilt-Tripper: “I will keep them well-behaved.”
Control Freak: “I must be able to predict their actions.”
Taskmaster: “You must work very hard and be productive.”
Underminer: “Don’t do that - you won’t be any good at it.”
Conformist: “There is a right and wrong way to be.”
Destroyer: “Maybe you should stop trying and give up.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice your Inner Critic Part trying to protect you or keep you safe?
What type of Inner Critic resonates most with you?
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When Caretaking Is Self-Sabotage

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:
identify
accept
learn from
work with
our parts. 
In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:
Indulgers
Controllers
Caretakers
Rebels
Inner Critics
Isolators
The Caretaker Part wants to “rescue and save others” in order to avoid your own personal work. 
Here are the Caretaker archetypes or “flavors”:
24-Hour Nurse: “If I’m always caring for others, I can prove my worth and avoid self-reflection and vulnerability.”
Pushover: “I just can’t say NO.”
Martyr: “I’m resentful and exhausted because I help too much!”
Pleaser: “I just can’t have them disappointed in me. I have to avoid confrontation.”
Hero: “I will swoop in and save the say even if it costs me.”
Peacemaker: “I will avoid conflict and keep the peace at any cost.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice a Caretaker Part trying to rescue others at your own expense?
What type of Caretaker Part resonates most with you?
When do you notice your Caretaker Part sabotaging your best efforts?
How is your Caretaker Part trying to keep you safe?
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How We Sabotage Ourselves With Control

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:
identify
accept
learn from
work with
our parts. 
In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:
Indulgers
Controllers
Caretakers
Rebels
Inner Critics
Isolators
The Controller Part wants to micromanage our lives and circumstances in order to feel safe. 
Here are the Controller archetypes or “flavors”:
Permissive Parent: “If you just finish your veggies, you can have extra dessert.”
Perfectionist: “If you don’t do this perfectly, you will be punished.”
Know-It-All: “You should always do this, and you shouldn’t ever do that.”
Purger: “You screwed up again - better get rid of the evidence!”
Punisher: “You should be ashamed of yourself and you’ll pay!”
Robot: “I won’t have any part of this. I’ll just go through the motions and check out.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice a Controller Part trying to micromanage your actions or behaviors?
What type of Controller resonates most with you?
When do you notice your Controller negotiating with you?
What is your Controller trying to protect you from experiencing?
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