Intelligent Intoxication

How To Stop Catering To Dysfunctional People

So often in dysfunctional families, the members cater to the most dysfunctional person in the group, allowing that individual to set the tone. 
This can also occur in the workplace, friend circles, or in any group of people in which the members “walk on egg shells” to appease and/or prevent an emotionally immature reaction. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice investing your limited time, energy, and resources into the lowest common denominator?
When do you allow someone who isn’t willing to increase their self-awareness to set the tone for your relationship?
How willing are you to ignore emotionally immature behavior?
How willing are you to challenge dysfunctional behavior with statements like:
“That isn’t going to work for me.”
“I’m not willing to do/accept that.”
“I’m removing myself from this situation.”
“I’m no longer available for this.”
Where in your life are you changing your words/actions in order to align with the lowest common denominator or person in the room instead of holding yourself to a higher standard and challenging others to rise to that level?
Where do you notice allowing others to set the tone in your relationships?
If you know you could use some support as you navigate setting boundaries with and communicating your needs in emotionally dysfunctional relationships, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Only You Can Determine Your Value and Worth

We cannot delegate the determination of our value and worth to other people. It’s almost as if we’re acting like hourly employees in our relationships with others and people-pleasing them in order to be “paid” with admiration, validation, or respect. 
We are the only ones who can determine our value and worth and create relationships that align with that value and worth. 
As a life coach, I’ve determined what I charge for coaching. Potential clients then get to decide if they want to invest in coaching. But, I don’t lower my prices in order to convince them to hire me. I wait to align with the clients who are ready to invest in the value I offer. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice acting like an hourly employee in your relationships?
How willing are you to determine your own worth and value?
What might prevent you from accepting what you’re worth?
If you know you could use some support as you identify your gifts and passions in the second half of life, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Why Staying Busy and Having Hobbies Won't Fulfill You As An Empty-Nester

The difference between rest/playing doing impactful “work” is experiencing the fulfillment that only comes when we challenge ourselves to utilize our gifts and talents. 
When we rest, we are prioritizing these types of rest:
The 7 Types of Rest You Need
When we “play”, are are engaging in these types of activities:
Find Your Play Personality
But, when we’re engaged in impactful, meaningful “work”, we:
Identify our natural gifts:
What comes easily to you? 
What do others seek you out to help them with?
Use and develop our gifts:
How can I apply my gifts?
How willing am I to “squirm” and challenge myself to grow my gifts?
Couple your gifts and passions (what you’re naturally curious about) to create a meaningful impact for another human being and feel fulfilled:
Who might benefit from your passionate gifts?
What is the smallest thing you can create that might impact another human?
 
If you know you could use some support as you identify your gifts and passions in the second half of life, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

The 2 Emotions Every Empty Nester Must Embrace

There are two emotions I encourage you to practice feeling regularly in order to embrace life in the empty-nest stage: acceptance and willingness. 
When we feel acceptance, we are thinking something along the lines of:
“I’m no longer going to argue with what is or what I need to do in order to thrive.”
We are more likely to:
step out of resistance and a tendency to complain
allow ourselves to feel all of our emotions and move through them
tell the truth about our current circumstances
And, we have a greater chance of creating:
states of satisfaction, peace, success, and delight
creating a new, better normal
When we feel willingness, we are thinking something along the lines of:
“I’m intentionally agreeing to this because it is necessary and valuable.”
We are more likely to:
get curious about the opportunities and possibilities in new chapters
focus on what we can create
And, we have a greater chance of:
discovering the new, novel, and possible
embracing exactly where we are
If you know you could use some support as you identify your gifts and passions in the second half of life, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Finding Purpose As An Empty-Nester

We overcomplicate feeling “purposeful” as empty-nesters. The solution is pretty simple - identify your gifts (what comes so easily to you that you may disregard it), and learn how to apply your gifts to your passions (anything you’re curious about or drawn to). 
We encounter resistance to living our passion when we lack the awareness of our passions and gifts, and or the willingness or ability to champion or embody one or both. 
“Your gifts don’t tell you what areas of life you’re passionate about - your own eyes tell you that (what you’re drawn to and interested in, what you could learn and talk about all day). Your gifts tell you now to apply yourself and what to bring to those areas to be successful at them, because you’ll be providing the best possible value you are able to bring. Leading with the things you’re good at will always be the best way you could ever possibly be received.”
Jenna Zoe
Human Design: The Revolutionary System That Shows You Who You Came Here To Be
I invite you to consider these questions:
What comes easily to you?
What do others compliment you for doing efficiently or easefully?
What are you curious about?
What do you naturally feel drawn or pulled to?
What feels fun?
What could you spend all day doing?
When do you notice being most present?
If you know you could use some support as you identify your gifts and passions in the second half of life, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Your Empty Nest Self-Concept

“Your self-concept is simply the collection of thoughts that you have about yourself. These thoughts make up your beliefs about you and who you are. Your self-concept determines how you feel and it determines the results that you get (or don’t get) for yourself.”
Kristen Carder/Focused with Kristen Carder
I encourage you to take about 5 minutes to complete the following exercise:
Write down every thought or belief you have about yourself as an empty-nester - in other words, who you believe you’ll be, what you’ll be doing, what you want, etc. 
Then, I invite you to read over your thoughts and beliefs with these questions in mind:
Which of your thoughts/beliefs were “given” to you by someone else? 
Do they serve you long-term?
Which of your thoughts/beliefs are fear-based Inner Critic patterns?
Inner Critic Assessment
Do they serve you long-term?
Which of your thoughts/beliefs actually allow you to feel hopeful, accepting, or excited about being an empty-nester?
I also invite you to seek out empty-nesters who are thriving and ask them:
What are you thinking or believing that is allowing you to thrive?
What are you feeling or doing?
What are you creating or prioritizing?
If you know you could use some support as you clarify your own self-concept in the second half of life, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What Is Inflaming or Irritiating Your Life?

“Freedom starts when you can identify the aggravation you’ve been accommodating for so long.”
Danielle LaPorte
When we’re “free”, we are intentional regarding how we invest our time, energy, and resources. When we’re “accodomating”, we’re buffering difficult emotions with unhelpful habits and choices. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
Where in your life do things feel inflamed or monotonously irritating?
Why are you currently accommodating these aggravations?
If you stop accommodating, what are you afraid others will think, say, or feel about you?
If you know you could use some support and encouragement as you identify and release what is inflaming or irritating your life, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Decision-Making Overwhelm

We all struggle with decision-making at times, whether it’s packing for a trip, deciding what to spend money on, or what to change or shift in our lives. 
Sometimes, decision-making can feel overwhelming, and even unsafe. Here are a few questions for your consideration:
What narratives play in your mind surrounding decisions?
(ie: “If you make the wrong decision, the consequences will be irreparable.”)
How were you taught to make decisions?
Whose voice is in your head when you’re trying to make a decision?
What is this voice trying to keep you safe from?
What perceived negative consequences are you trying to avoid by resisting making a decision?
If you know you could use some support and encouragement with your own decision-making in order to make decisions that serve you long-term, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Just Choose

We all tend to overcomplicate choices and decisions. But when we embrace the “just choose” mindset, we practice choosing BEFORE we have clarity or despite the fact that our choices may be imperfect. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice not “just choosing” in your life?
What clarity are you trying to find before you choose?
What if clarity is only available during or after, and never before?
If you know you could use some support and encouragement as you “just choose” and make decisions that serve you long-term, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 

Why Moms Resist Help

As mothers, we often resist asking for or receiving help because we don’t want to be a burden for others. Accepting help also frees us to work in our own Zone of Genius. You have the right to ask for and receive what feels like “help” to you. 
Being in a state of hypervigilance can prevent us from asking for or receiving help. If we’ve experienced being let down by others, asking for help can feel too vulnerable. 
If you know you could use some support and encouragement as you practice willingness to be helped, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory