Intelligent Intoxication

What You Really Need And How To Get It

“Why do we do the things we do? Why is it that we measure success and value by attention and status, yet frown upon complacency? What force drives and shapes all of our emotions, actions, quality of life and, ultimately, our destinies? Did you know that the answers to these questions can all be explained by learning about the 6 human needs?”
Tony Robbins
Our NEEDS are our requirements as human beings:
certainty
uncertainty
significance
love and connection
growth
contribution
“All dysfunctional behaviors arise from the inability to consistently meet these core needs. But people’s needs aren’t just behind the bad decisions we make – they are also behind all of the great things humans accomplish. Understanding your own needs and psychology can not only help you avoid toxic behaviors and habits but can also help you achieve your goals.”
Tony Robbins
I invite you to consider these questions:
Which of the six human needs are currently being met in your life?
Which aren’t?
When is your need for certainty at the expense of your need for variety?
When is your need for variety at the expense of your need for certainty?
When is your need for significance at the expense of your need for love and connection?
When is your need for love and connection at the expense of your need for significance?
When is your need for growth at the expense of your need for contribution?
When is your need for contribution at the expense of your need for growth?
Watch Tony’s TedX Talk here:
"Why You Do What You Do"
Take Tony’s “Needs” Quiz here:
Needs Quiz
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Take Down The Parts Of Your Life That No Longer Serve You

If you’re willing and/or ready to take down or release the parts of your life that no longer serve you, here’s how I suggest that you begin to do so:
tackle the physical clutter
start with the smallest spaces (drawers) and with the things you don’t really care about or feel attached to
move on to sentimental physical belongings, relationships, acquaintances, or habits that no longer serve you
now that you’ve built momentum, you can begin to identify and release the “big” trees or “challenging NOs” like a career or job, relationship, a location, or a long-term obligation
you may want or need the support of a coach, therapist, or trusted mentor to begin to release these types of things
The discomfort you may feel as you release things from your life will pale in comparison to the long-term space and relief you’ll experience on the other side of letting go. 
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Be A Friend Others Celebrate

In celebration of the life of my beautiful college friend, Christine Marquise, I’d like to highlight what made her wonderfully brilliant, as there is so much to be learned from her legacy. 
Christine, or “Ollie”, as we lovingly called her, was an energizing, rather than depleting or draining friend. Here’s why:
She was emotionally mature and willing to be emotionally vulnerable
She gave her friends “equal air time” by listening and asking questions
She didn’t compete with friends (from a place of superiority) or get stuck in comparison-itis with friends (from a place of inferiority). She brought her best self to the friendship and wanted others to do the same. 
She was physically, emotionally, and mentally present without the distraction of her phone. 
Inner Critic Assessment
I invite you to consider these questions:
How willing are you to share vulnerably with your friends without dumping
How aware are you in your friendships of listening more than you talk?
How willing are you to get curious about how competition and comparison-itis might be showing up in your friendships?
How willing are you to be present in your friendships
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Start, Stop, or Create

In order to start, stop, or create this, what is the system I am going to need in place? A system is a step-by-step checklist that you can follow on auto-pilot in the direction of your desired destination. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
What do you want to stop doing?
What do you want to start doing?
What do you want to create?
Will saying YES to this energize me? 
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What To Expect When You Birth Something Different

Birthing something new in your life will be:
Painful
Uncertain
Confusing
Disappointing
But feeling these emotions doesn’t mean that you’re on the wrong track. In order to “birth” your own version of different, you must be capable of and willing to feel “negative” emotions. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice quitting on your goals or dreams when they feel uncomfortable or painful?
How willing are you to ask for help in order to create your different life?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What You Always Have A Right To

Years ago, my beloved therapist, Meg, gave me a “Personal Bill of Rights”. Admittedly, at that time, I wanted to want to believe everything on the page, but I didn’t… yet. But thanks to years of personal development with the help of therapists and coaches, today I practice and embody every right on the list. You can too, my friend. 
If there’s a “right” that you really want to believe, I invite you to practice these prompts:
“I want to want to believe that… “
“It’s possible that I have a right to… “
“I’m willing to consider that I deserve… “
I invite you to consider these questions:
What did you notice feeling when you read this Bill of Rights?
How willing are you to create your own?
What might prevent you from doing so?
As you listened to tonight’s episode, did a specific relationship come to mind?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To NOT Feel Overloaded or Shutdown in December

If we’re not aware of our stress levels, it’s easy to become overloaded or shutdown during the month of December. 
Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling overloaded:
Clenched
Hot
Heart pounding
Fighting
Anxious
Hypervigilant
Impulsive
angry/frustrated/annoyed irritable
Defensive
Overwhelmed
Shaking
Aggressive
Revved up
Agitated
Intense
Panic
Antsy
Wound up
Stressed
Tight
Fidgety
Jittery
Trapped
Excitement (can often feel like anxiety)
Nervous
Buzzed
Tingly
Jumpy
Knotted
Saturated
You may also notice that you:
want to run away
have stuck, intrusive negative thoughts
have heightened awareness
have trouble sleeping, relaxing, or resting
can’t concentrate
sweat
turn red
have difficulty making decisions
have anxiety/panic
feel agitated
have a racing heart
loose focus
experience digestive issues
are jumpy or easily angered
lack an appetite
have racing, stuck, or intrusive thoughts
experience distraction
feel restless
 
Here’s what to try in order to decrease the stress and calm your body:
When you feel this way, rate the number of your stress/activation on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 = non-existent and 10 being unbearable.
Ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to calm my body down and reduce the amount of energy?
Here are some coping strategies to try:
Exercise
Breathing
shaking/bouncing
Tapping
tense/release your muscles
Go outside
Write down thoughts on paper
Yell in a pillow
Punch a pillow
Lift weights
Dance
Play a sport
Ask for help
draw/paint/create
Cross-lateral stimulation
Meditation
Laughter
Read
Anything mindful that keeps you in the present moment
Color
Word search
Body work like massage or acupuncture
Yoga
Silence
Stillness
solitude
Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling shutdown:
Shut down
Frozen
Unmotivated
Apathetic
Stuck
Stagnant
Confused
Low energy
Numb
Disconnected
Lethargic
Withdrawn
Dissociated
Flat
Slow
Distant
Foggy
Tired
Collapsed
Fading
Dissolving
Out of your body
Drained
Emotionally unresponsive
Empty
Fatigued
Depressed
unfocused
You may also notice that you:
Don’t want to be with others
Are leaking energy
Don’t want to engage or connect
Want to curl up and hibernate
Start to withdraw
Pull away
Feel fatigued and exhausted
Struggle to take actions
Have brain fog
Feel heavy or sluggish
Feel frozen
Are overwhelmed
Experience hopelessness
Feel numb or dissociated
Are in avoidance
Feel Shame
Use food, alcohol, or drugs for comfort
Procrastinate
Feel immobilized, depressed, and/or numb.
Here’s what to try in order to increase your energy level:
When you feel this way, rate your energy level on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 = no energy and 10 too much energy.
Ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to boost or increase my energy?
Here are some coping strategies to try:
Focus on the five senses and how they impact your energy:
What smells energize me?
Experiment with essential oils… peppermint is great for this.
candles/incense/soaps/perfumes/lotions
What sounds/music energizes me?
Create a playlist.
Listen to a podcast.
Listen to natural sounds on a app.
What do I find energizing to look at?
Is it something outside?
Art?
A vision board or Pinterest board?
Scrapbooks/photos?
What flavors/foods/textures energize me?
Spicy?
Chewy? Crunchy?
Brush your teeth
What can I touch?
Certain fabrics?
Massage
hot/cold showers
Breathwork
Dancing
Spending time with a pet
Seeing friends
Going for a drive
Sitting outside
something else?
Here’s how you’ll know you have a tolerable level of stress:
Comfortable
Present
Calm
Relaxed
Rested
Safe
Alert
Grounded
Mindful
Engaged
Energized
Confident
Alive
Bouncy
Smiling
Leaning forward
Chill
Loose
Open
Lounging
Playful
Grounded
connected
something else?
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice feeling overloaded during the holiday?
When do you notice feeling shutdown?
When do you notice feeling a tolerable, comfortable level of stress?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

You're Righteous - Not Right

When we are trying so hard to be “right”, we often become “righteous” and believe ourselves to be intellectually, morally, emotionally, or mentally superior to others, and we blame those who disagree with us. 
When we’re in integrity, we are empowered to align our words and actions to our own core values. While we may challenge (respectfully) beliefs or decisions different from our own, we don’t persecute or bully from a place of blame.  
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice tipping into a “righteous” habit? How willing are you to course-correct in order to pivot back into integrity?
When do you notice feeling mentally, emotionally, politicallly, religiously, or spiritually superior to others? 
What benefit do you get from feeling superior? What is it costing you?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What Healthy, Secure Friendships Really Are

Healthy, secure friendships must be based on these three beliefs:
“I want my friends to have other friends.I don’t get to decide who my friends choose as friends.” 
“My friends don’t have to love what I love or value what I value. We aren’t going to be 100% compatible.”
“I want to make sure that I give my friends equal air time.” 
I invite you to consider these questions:
Which of your current friendships are genuinely healthy and secure?
How willing are you to celebrate your friends having other friends?
How willing are you to be responsible for finding matches for your wants and interests?
How willing are you to give your friends equal air time?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Gathering More Information Won't Allow You To Change

There is a difference between collecting information and applying it. We can know and understand, but if we don’t use the information and understanding in our daily lives, we aren’t really growing or expanding. 
I don’t believe that we need more information in order to make sustainable change. We might need a small amount of different information AND a simple and sustainable system for applying the information. 
If you’re stuck, you might need:
different information
a sustainable, simple system for applying the information
a habit for managing uncomfortable emotions so that you can follow through with your system
I invite you to consider these questions:
How might it feel to practice thinking: “I know enough”?
What benefit do you get from collecting more information than you really need to change?
How willing are you to create a simple, sustainable system for making the changes that really matter to you?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory