When You Self-Sabotage By Isolating

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:

• identify
• accept
• learn from
• work with

our parts. 

In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:

• Indulgers
• Controllers
• Caretakers
• Rebels
• Inner Critics
• Isolators

The Isolator Part interferes with creating healthy connections with others. 

Here are the Isolator archetypes or “flavors”:

• Diminisher: “You’re not important and your needs don’t matter.”
• Procrastinator: “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
• Cynic: “Don’t trust anyone - they’ll just disappoint you.”
• Soloist: “I’ll do so much better alone.”
• Workaholic: “I don’t have time for friends - I’m too busy.”
• Secret Keeper: “I’m too ashamed - I can’t tell anyone.”
• Incognito: “I’m only safe if I’m invisible.”
• Misfit: “I don’t want to belong.”
• One-Night Stander: “I’ll be physically close to others but not emotionally vulnerable.”
• Luddite: “I don’t do social media.”
• Screen Addict: “If I stare at my phone I can avoid interacting with people.”

 

I invite you to consider these questions:

• When do you notice your Isolator Part trying to protect you from experiencing rejection, disappointment, or exclusion?
• What type of Isolator resonates most with you?
  
  

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