What And Who To Say NO To

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life. 

“We have activities we engage in and people we interact with. Some of those activities and relationships energize us and we feel lit up, alive and inspired while doing them or when we’re with them. Others drain and deplete our energy and we feel exhausted, tapped out, saturated.”

(Inspired/Paraphrased by Feroshia Knight.)

Our goal is to tell ourselves the truth regarding which of our professional/personal activities and relationships energize or deplete us. 

1. Make a list of your personal and professional activities. Personal activities may include:

• Chores
• Errands
• calls/emails/texts
• Projects
• hobbies
• Things to do with others
• Things you do alone

Professional activities may include:

• Tasks
• Projects
• Meetings
• Communications

Next to each activity, place a + sign if it energizes you, and a - sign if it depletes you.  Identify what the energizing activities share in common. Discern what the depleting/draining activities have in common.  Identify the immediate, temporary benefit you get from saying YES to activities that drain you. Identify what saying YES to activities that drain you is costing you long- term.  Identify the long-term benefit you get from saying YES to activities that energize you. Identify the temporary cost to saying NO to things that don’t energize you.  Decide what to do with the draining activities:

 

• ditching it
• delegating it
• doing it while you do something fun
• decreasing the amount of it you do or how you do it

 

1. Make a list of your personal and professional relationships. Personal relationships may include:

• wives/husbands/partners
• children
• friends
• extended family
• acquaintances

 

1. Professional relationships may include:

• Bosses
• Colleagues
• Team members
• Support staff

 

1. Next to each name, place a + sign if the relationship energizes you, and a - sign if the relationship depletes you. 
2. Identify what the energizing relationships share in common.
3. Discern what the depleting/draining relationships have in common. 
4. Identify the immediate, temporary benefit you get from spending time in relationships that drain you.
5. Identify what saying YES to relationships that drain you is costing you long-term. 
6. Identify the long-term benefit you get from saying YES to relationships that energize you.
7. Identify the temporary cost to saying NO to relationships that fail to energize you. 

If a relationship drains or depletes you, you can consider:

• Dissolving or ending it
• Communicate what you want or need
• Create and communicate boundaries
• decreasing the amount of time you spend with this person

I invite you to consider these questions in regard to your personal and professional activities and relationships:

• Does this activity energize me?
• Does this activity deplete me?
• Does this relationship energize me?
• Does this relationship deplete me?
• If so, why am I staying?
• If I’m leaving, do I like my reasons?

 

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If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

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