Stop Trying To Find Your Purpose

So many women feel the weight of the question: “What is my purpose?”
It can feel big, vague, and quietly intimidating—like there’s a “right” answer you’re supposed to figure out.

But what if the question itself is the problem?

This episode offers a gentler, more grounded approach.

Key Shift

Instead of asking:
“What is my purpose?”

Try asking:

• What lets me feel a little more alive?

• When do I notice feeling most like me?

• Does this energize me - or does it drain or deplete me?

• When do I notice feeling purposeful?

Why “Finding Your Purpose” Feels Heavy

• It implies a single, fixed answer
• It creates pressure to get it right
• It keeps you in your head, searching and overthinking
• It can make you feel behind or like you’re missing something

What It Means to Feel Purposeful

Feeling purposeful isn’t something you find once—
it’s something you experience in moments.

It often shows up when you are:

• Engaged
• Energized (not depleted)
• Curious or interested
• Connected to yourself or others
• Doing something that feels meaningful, even in a small way

Better Questions to Ask Yourself

• What made me feel energized this week?
• When did I lose track of time?
• What felt simple, natural, or like “me”?
• What am I drawn to lately?
• Does this energize me or deplete me?

The Truth About Purpose

Purpose isn’t something you chase—
it’s something you generate through how you live.

Small moments of aliveness create a life that feels meaningful.

Try This

Instead of waiting for clarity about your purpose:

• Follow what feels engaging
• Pay attention to your energy
• Let curiosity lead before certainty

Closing Thought

You don’t need to figure out your entire purpose to create a life that feels deeply meaningful.

Start with what brings you to life—
and let that be enough to guide your next step.

If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who needs some support as you fill your life with meaning and aliveness, I can help.  I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link:

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If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

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