How To Protect Your NOs

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If you’re in the habit of saying YES even when you mean NO or NOT YET, changing this habit requires smalls shifts:

• identify how YES or NO shows up in your body
• tell yourself the truth about your YES or NOs
• practice saying NO to things you aren’t:
  • willing to do
  • capable of doing 
• anticipate this feeling really uncomfortable
• if you resist saying NO, get curious about what your brain is telling you might be the worst thing another person may:
  • think
  • feel
  • say about you
• once you’re in the habit of identifying and communicating your NOs to others, pay attention to how you respond when others don’t respect your NOs. 
  • do you give in?
  • do you react?
  • do you clarify your NO
    • “If you’d like me to deliver this for you, please have it on my porch by tomorrow morning by 8. If it’s not there when I leave at 8, I’ll assume you decided to handle the delivery yourself.”
    • If they deliver the item after you’ve already left, remind them of your initial boundary:
      • “If you’ll remember, I mentioned that I was leaving to deliver the items I had by 8. Please grab your item and make other plans as I’ve already gone.”

I invite you to consider these questions:

• What might prevent you from protecting your NO?
• How willing are you to accept that you are intentionally choosing to feel resentment or bitterness rather than discomfort if you don’t protect your NO?

 

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