Intelligent Intoxication

What You Always Have A Right To

Years ago, my beloved therapist, Meg, gave me a “Personal Bill of Rights”. Admittedly, at that time, I wanted to want to believe everything on the page, but I didn’t… yet. But thanks to years of personal development with the help of therapists and coaches, today I practice and embody every right on the list. You can too, my friend. 
If there’s a “right” that you really want to believe, I invite you to practice these prompts:
“I want to want to believe that… “
“It’s possible that I have a right to… “
“I’m willing to consider that I deserve… “
I invite you to consider these questions:
What did you notice feeling when you read this Bill of Rights?
How willing are you to create your own?
What might prevent you from doing so?
As you listened to tonight’s episode, did a specific relationship come to mind?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To NOT Feel Overloaded or Shutdown in December

If we’re not aware of our stress levels, it’s easy to become overloaded or shutdown during the month of December. 
Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling overloaded:
Clenched
Hot
Heart pounding
Fighting
Anxious
Hypervigilant
Impulsive
angry/frustrated/annoyed irritable
Defensive
Overwhelmed
Shaking
Aggressive
Revved up
Agitated
Intense
Panic
Antsy
Wound up
Stressed
Tight
Fidgety
Jittery
Trapped
Excitement (can often feel like anxiety)
Nervous
Buzzed
Tingly
Jumpy
Knotted
Saturated
You may also notice that you:
want to run away
have stuck, intrusive negative thoughts
have heightened awareness
have trouble sleeping, relaxing, or resting
can’t concentrate
sweat
turn red
have difficulty making decisions
have anxiety/panic
feel agitated
have a racing heart
loose focus
experience digestive issues
are jumpy or easily angered
lack an appetite
have racing, stuck, or intrusive thoughts
experience distraction
feel restless
 
Here’s what to try in order to decrease the stress and calm your body:
When you feel this way, rate the number of your stress/activation on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 = non-existent and 10 being unbearable.
Ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to calm my body down and reduce the amount of energy?
Here are some coping strategies to try:
Exercise
Breathing
shaking/bouncing
Tapping
tense/release your muscles
Go outside
Write down thoughts on paper
Yell in a pillow
Punch a pillow
Lift weights
Dance
Play a sport
Ask for help
draw/paint/create
Cross-lateral stimulation
Meditation
Laughter
Read
Anything mindful that keeps you in the present moment
Color
Word search
Body work like massage or acupuncture
Yoga
Silence
Stillness
solitude
Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling shutdown:
Shut down
Frozen
Unmotivated
Apathetic
Stuck
Stagnant
Confused
Low energy
Numb
Disconnected
Lethargic
Withdrawn
Dissociated
Flat
Slow
Distant
Foggy
Tired
Collapsed
Fading
Dissolving
Out of your body
Drained
Emotionally unresponsive
Empty
Fatigued
Depressed
unfocused
You may also notice that you:
Don’t want to be with others
Are leaking energy
Don’t want to engage or connect
Want to curl up and hibernate
Start to withdraw
Pull away
Feel fatigued and exhausted
Struggle to take actions
Have brain fog
Feel heavy or sluggish
Feel frozen
Are overwhelmed
Experience hopelessness
Feel numb or dissociated
Are in avoidance
Feel Shame
Use food, alcohol, or drugs for comfort
Procrastinate
Feel immobilized, depressed, and/or numb.
Here’s what to try in order to increase your energy level:
When you feel this way, rate your energy level on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 = no energy and 10 too much energy.
Ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to boost or increase my energy?
Here are some coping strategies to try:
Focus on the five senses and how they impact your energy:
What smells energize me?
Experiment with essential oils… peppermint is great for this.
candles/incense/soaps/perfumes/lotions
What sounds/music energizes me?
Create a playlist.
Listen to a podcast.
Listen to natural sounds on a app.
What do I find energizing to look at?
Is it something outside?
Art?
A vision board or Pinterest board?
Scrapbooks/photos?
What flavors/foods/textures energize me?
Spicy?
Chewy? Crunchy?
Brush your teeth
What can I touch?
Certain fabrics?
Massage
hot/cold showers
Breathwork
Dancing
Spending time with a pet
Seeing friends
Going for a drive
Sitting outside
something else?
Here’s how you’ll know you have a tolerable level of stress:
Comfortable
Present
Calm
Relaxed
Rested
Safe
Alert
Grounded
Mindful
Engaged
Energized
Confident
Alive
Bouncy
Smiling
Leaning forward
Chill
Loose
Open
Lounging
Playful
Grounded
connected
something else?
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice feeling overloaded during the holiday?
When do you notice feeling shutdown?
When do you notice feeling a tolerable, comfortable level of stress?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

You're Righteous - Not Right

When we are trying so hard to be “right”, we often become “righteous” and believe ourselves to be intellectually, morally, emotionally, or mentally superior to others, and we blame those who disagree with us. 
When we’re in integrity, we are empowered to align our words and actions to our own core values. While we may challenge (respectfully) beliefs or decisions different from our own, we don’t persecute or bully from a place of blame.  
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice tipping into a “righteous” habit? How willing are you to course-correct in order to pivot back into integrity?
When do you notice feeling mentally, emotionally, politicallly, religiously, or spiritually superior to others? 
What benefit do you get from feeling superior? What is it costing you?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What Healthy, Secure Friendships Really Are

Healthy, secure friendships must be based on these three beliefs:
“I want my friends to have other friends.I don’t get to decide who my friends choose as friends.” 
“My friends don’t have to love what I love or value what I value. We aren’t going to be 100% compatible.”
“I want to make sure that I give my friends equal air time.” 
I invite you to consider these questions:
Which of your current friendships are genuinely healthy and secure?
How willing are you to celebrate your friends having other friends?
How willing are you to be responsible for finding matches for your wants and interests?
How willing are you to give your friends equal air time?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Gathering More Information Won't Allow You To Change

There is a difference between collecting information and applying it. We can know and understand, but if we don’t use the information and understanding in our daily lives, we aren’t really growing or expanding. 
I don’t believe that we need more information in order to make sustainable change. We might need a small amount of different information AND a simple and sustainable system for applying the information. 
If you’re stuck, you might need:
different information
a sustainable, simple system for applying the information
a habit for managing uncomfortable emotions so that you can follow through with your system
I invite you to consider these questions:
How might it feel to practice thinking: “I know enough”?
What benefit do you get from collecting more information than you really need to change?
How willing are you to create a simple, sustainable system for making the changes that really matter to you?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Be Senstive To Others Without Self-Sacrificing

We can be sensitive to the needs of others without sacrificing our own health, well-being, and relationships. 
“... being sensitive to the emotional needs of others is actually about understanding other people’s emotional needs but not necessarily doing something about them. It can hold space without taking it on as something to fix.  And, when we are really honest with ourselves about what belongs to us and what doesn’t, our capacity, our boundaries, and our values, it is easy to know when to hold space and when to try to meet their needs.”
Christie Inge
The Sensitive Soul
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice setting yourself on fire in order to keep others warm?
When do you notice assuming that it is your responsibility to “fix” someone else’s emotions?
How willing are you to give yourself the permission to be sensitive to the emotional needs of others without having to do anything about them?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Boost Dopamine With A Menu

“Dopamine is a neurotransmitter involved in the function of many areas of the body, such as digestion, sleep, learning and emotional health, including how one feels pleasure and reward… while other neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, also boost your mood, dopamine is a bit different because it's linked to reward and motivation. Essentially, you feel its release as you mark something off your list—big (a marathon) or small (finishing up meal prep for the week)... a dopamine menu is filled with activities and tasks that leave you with a sense of reward once they’re done. When you need a feel-good hit, you can choose something on your menu to improve your mood.”
“How To Make Your Own Dopamine Menu And Why It May Help Increase Happiness” by Elizabeth Shaw, M.S., RDN, CPT
Here’s an article for your consideration:
Dopamine Menu
Here’s a quick video:
Dopamine Menu Video
I invite you to consider these questions:
What are your dopamine entrees? How often do you get to indulge in these rewarding activities or experiences?
What are your dopamine appetizers? Can you enjoy them in less than 10 minutes?
What are your dopamine sides? Which boring, mundane tasks can you pair them with?
What are your dopamine desserts? What amount of time boosts dopamine without sending you into hyper-focus?
 
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Know If You're A Good Person

How do you really know if you’re a “good” person? First and foremost, please intentionally decide what your definition of “good” actually is. And, decide if you want to use the word. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
In order for other people to think that you’re a “good” person, what do you need to keep, start, or stop doing?
In order for you to think that you’re a “good” person, what do you need to keep, start, or stop doing?
When does it serve you to use the word “good”? When doesn’t it?
How might it feel to decide that you want to be someone who is IN integrity?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Handle Being Excluded And How To Be Included

“Other awareness” is one of the four pillars of emotional intelligence. When we are self-aware and know/understand why we do what we do, we naturally become more other-aware and cognizant of the people we encounter or are in relationship with in our lives. 
If we lack other-awareness, we may unintentionally exclude others. 
Often, we unintentionally exclude because we ourselves have been excluded and/or are fearful of being rejected. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When I feel excluded, how do I have my own back?
What prevents me from being aware of myself when I’m feeling excluded?
What prevents me from being aware of others?
When do I notice “groveling” to be included even when I’m sacrificing who I really am in order to avoid rejection?
When do you notice trying to be something or someone you’re not?
What prevents you from telling the truth about who you really are?
What prevents you from “putting yourself in rooms” with other like-minded people?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Stop Checking Obligatory Boxes

We all fall into the habit of checking boxes in our professional and personal lives. “Boxes” are anything we feel obligated to do or be because we were conditioned to believe that by doing so, we would be right, successful, or happy. 
In order to stop checking obligatory, arbitrary boxes in order to buy back time to intentionally create whole-hearted commitments, we must be willing to revisit every YES and intentionally decide if we want to continue to prioritize the investment of our valuable yet limited time and energy. In other words, we must be willing to re-commit to anything taking up space in our lives. 
I invite you to do this:
On a piece of paper, write down every relationship (personally or professionally) you’re currently investing your time or energy into maintaining. 
Write down every task, project, role, or commitment you’re currently saying YES to. 
Next to each one, write a + IF investing in this relationship or activity energizes you. 
Write a - next to the ones that deplete or drain you. 
If something is neutral (not energizing OR depleting), leave it blank. 
On a new piece of paper, transfer every relationship or activity that received a +. 
I invite you to consider these questions:What is it about the + relationships that energize you?
What is about the + activities/tasks/commitments that energize you?
How does it feel to only see energizing relationships/commitments on the page?
If this is what your life could look and feel like most of the time, how might you feel?
Go back to your initial list. 
Take a black marker and cross out every relationship or activity that depletes you (you’re not actually going to do this yet or unless you choose to).
As you cross out the depleting/draining items, I invite you to notice how you feel. Do you feel:Guilty?
Ashamed?
Relieved?
Afraid?
Worried?
Anxious?
Spacious?
Free?
Energized?
Intentional?
Powerful?
Mean?
Crazy?
Something else?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory