Intelligent Intoxication

How To Know If You're A Good Person

How do you really know if you’re a “good” person? First and foremost, please intentionally decide what your definition of “good” actually is. And, decide if you want to use the word. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
In order for other people to think that you’re a “good” person, what do you need to keep, start, or stop doing?
In order for you to think that you’re a “good” person, what do you need to keep, start, or stop doing?
When does it serve you to use the word “good”? When doesn’t it?
How might it feel to decide that you want to be someone who is IN integrity?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Handle Being Excluded And How To Be Included

“Other awareness” is one of the four pillars of emotional intelligence. When we are self-aware and know/understand why we do what we do, we naturally become more other-aware and cognizant of the people we encounter or are in relationship with in our lives. 
If we lack other-awareness, we may unintentionally exclude others. 
Often, we unintentionally exclude because we ourselves have been excluded and/or are fearful of being rejected. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When I feel excluded, how do I have my own back?
What prevents me from being aware of myself when I’m feeling excluded?
What prevents me from being aware of others?
When do I notice “groveling” to be included even when I’m sacrificing who I really am in order to avoid rejection?
When do you notice trying to be something or someone you’re not?
What prevents you from telling the truth about who you really are?
What prevents you from “putting yourself in rooms” with other like-minded people?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Stop Checking Obligatory Boxes

We all fall into the habit of checking boxes in our professional and personal lives. “Boxes” are anything we feel obligated to do or be because we were conditioned to believe that by doing so, we would be right, successful, or happy. 
In order to stop checking obligatory, arbitrary boxes in order to buy back time to intentionally create whole-hearted commitments, we must be willing to revisit every YES and intentionally decide if we want to continue to prioritize the investment of our valuable yet limited time and energy. In other words, we must be willing to re-commit to anything taking up space in our lives. 
I invite you to do this:
On a piece of paper, write down every relationship (personally or professionally) you’re currently investing your time or energy into maintaining. 
Write down every task, project, role, or commitment you’re currently saying YES to. 
Next to each one, write a + IF investing in this relationship or activity energizes you. 
Write a - next to the ones that deplete or drain you. 
If something is neutral (not energizing OR depleting), leave it blank. 
On a new piece of paper, transfer every relationship or activity that received a +. 
I invite you to consider these questions:What is it about the + relationships that energize you?
What is about the + activities/tasks/commitments that energize you?
How does it feel to only see energizing relationships/commitments on the page?
If this is what your life could look and feel like most of the time, how might you feel?
Go back to your initial list. 
Take a black marker and cross out every relationship or activity that depletes you (you’re not actually going to do this yet or unless you choose to).
As you cross out the depleting/draining items, I invite you to notice how you feel. Do you feel:Guilty?
Ashamed?
Relieved?
Afraid?
Worried?
Anxious?
Spacious?
Free?
Energized?
Intentional?
Powerful?
Mean?
Crazy?
Something else?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

The Difference Between Consistent and Perfect Habits

There is a difference between creating consistency in regard to your habits, routines, or rituals versus being attached to having perfect habits, routines, and rituals that are unsustainable. 
(Based on Christie Inge’s blog post: “The Energy of Human Design Gate 5”.)
Christie Inge/Gate 5
Habits, routines, and rituals must be based on these three things:
Intentions: the direction you’re headed and/or your ideal
Needs: what you require to keep moving in the direction you want to head
Values: what matters the most to you
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice trying to be “perfect” with your habits, routines, and rituals?
Which of your habits, routines, and rituals are easefully consistent?
What are your deepest intentions in your life?
What habits are preventing you from living those intentions?
What habits would support your intentions?
What are the clues in your life that your habits, routines, and rituals are actually working for you?
6 Human Needs
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Clarify Who And What Makes You Anxious

In The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward, author Britt Frank offers four “challenges” to undertake in order to discern when you feel anxious in the presence of another person:
 
CHALLENGE #1:
On one side of the paper list all of the stressful people with whom you spend time.
On the other side of the paper write: “My real feelings about him/her/them are… “
Then write: “I have a right to my feelings.”
CHALLENGE #2:
Make a list of all of the stressful tasks on your plate. 
On the bottom of the page write:
“It makes sense that I’m feeling anxious, stressed, or overwhelmed. I’ll feel better if I tackle BLANK first.”
CHALLENGE #3:
Make a list of anything else that is causing you stress that is not a task or person (finances/work/health/etc.).
At the bottom of the page write: “Here are 5 things I can do in less than 5 minutes to feel 5% better.”
CHALLENGE #4:
“My anxiety makes sense. Anyone in my situation would feel anxious. I may not even understand it right now, but I’m not crazy.”
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
Which of these challenges resonated most deeply with you?
Which one challenge are you willing to experiment with today?
 
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Why Anxiety Is Your Superpower

In The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward, author Britt Frank likens anxiety to an “check-engine indicator light in a car”:
“The light (anxiety) itself isn’t the problem - it’s a signal pointing you toward a problem. Trying to ‘get rid of’ anxiety is as counterproductive as trying to disable the check-engine light on your car.”
She offers these bottom-line takeaways (and I paraphrase):
Anxiety serves as a check-engine light for your body.
Your brain is wired to keep you safe and alive - not happy. 
A panic attack is not an attack. Your brain is talking to you. 
The inability to feel pain is a weakness - not a strength. 
Anxiety might require medical-management (medication).
Anxiety always comes from somewhere - even if you don’t know the somewhere. 
Anxiety needs to be understood - not fixed.
A survival response will often look like an anxiety disorder.
You are not crazy. 
Frank offers these “Do’s” for anxiety:
Tell yourself: “Just because I don’t know why I’m feeling  like this doesn’t mean there’s not a really good reason for these feelings to be there.”
Remind yourself that your body is not attacking you. It is trying to help you.
Ask yourself if there are areas of your life you hesitate to address because you fear the outcome. 
Talk to your doctor about medications and make sure you understand the side effects and potential for dependency. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
Which of these takeaways resonated most deeply with you?
How willing are you to embrace a new mindset in regard to anxiety?
How willing are you to seek help in managing your anxiety?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What You're Not Available For

When you notice your mind chattering with Inner Critic fear, worries, what if’s, or worse case scenarios, try this:
“I’m not available for anything that hasn’t actually happened.”
Or, try this:
“I’m not available for anything that isn’t happening right here, right now.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice your mind offering you worries, what if’s, or worse case scenarios?
How willing are you to try these two new prompts?
What might prevent you from doing so?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

The Clarity That Comes With Age

You don’t have to wait until you get older to:
clarify what you want and need
ask for what you want and need
create what you want
meet your own needs
create boundaries
communicate boundaries
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice meeting the wants and needs of others at your own expense?
How willing are you to discern your real wants and needs?
What might prevent you from communicating those wants and needs to others?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

ANXIETY

In this podcast and book, both entitled Anxiety Rx, Dr. Russell Kennedy offers a different perspective when it comes to managing what we refer to as “anxiety”. 
Here are a few of the takeaways from Kennedy’s work that have profoundly impacted how I manage anxiety and take care of myself:
Your mind gets fearful of the future and creates worries, what if’s, and worse scenarios.
Your body may hold onto past traumas in the form of A.L.A.R.M.S.:
Abuse
Loss
Abandonment
Rejection
Mature Too Soon 
Shame
When your body is in A.L.A.R.M.S. your mind tries to make sense of these physical sensations by creating intrusive, struck anxious thoughts. 
The only place to connect to your soul or most authentic self in the present moment. 
Our real work becomes regulating our bodies when triggered, giving ourselves what we need now or needed “back then”, and then learning to manage our Inner Critics in the present moment in order to clear the way to re-connect with our truest self. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice your body experiencing A.L.A.R.M.S.?
How willing are you to learn how to regulate your nervous system?
How do you respond to anxious, intrusive thoughts?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

You're Stuck Because Your Container Is Too Small

Sometimes we’re stuck because we’ve outgrown a current circumstance or “container” like a:
Place
Relationship
job/career
Habit
Mindset 
I invite you to consider these questions:
Are you currently growing and expanding professionally and personally?
What is preventing you from growing or expanding?
Which of your containers (places/jobs/relationships/beliefs/habits) have you outgrown?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability,  email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory