Intelligent Intoxication

Stop Treating Others Like An Audience

If you are “performing” for others, you are trying to impress others, or seeking attention from them almost as if they’re your audience. 
When we’re deeply connected to others, we are present, interested, and curious about the other person. 
Here are a few questions for your consideration:
When do you notice talking AT other people, rather than engaging with them?
What is your intention for doing so?
When do you notice being treated like an audience for another person? How does that make you feel? Why do you endure this?
Are you performing to impress others, or trying to understand them, and connecting with them?
Here’s the podcast episode I referenced in the episode:
6 Sneaky Ways Other People Are Disrespecting You
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Make Happiness Inevitable

“Happiness is not a feeling… one of the biggest reasons people don’t get happier is that they’re chasing a feeling… feelings are evidence of happiness… the three parts of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction and meaning.”
Arthur C. Brooks/author
Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.
According to Brooks,
if you want to get happier,
you must develop
the skills needed to:
enjoy your life
get satisfaction in your accomplishments
understand the meaning of your existence
In order to
find what you
really enjoy,
ask yourself:
What is enjoyable for me to:
touch?
taste?
smell?
see?
hear?
What acts of human goodness, kindness, or compassion bring me joy?
What can I do to relieve someone’s suffering?
What do I find witty, humorous, or amusing?
Whose achievements do I delight in celebrating?
What do I find beautiful, surprising, or amazing?
What connections to people, places, nature, causes, spirit, or religion feel enjoyable to me?
How Adults Play
How To Rest
Here are a few questions
to help you
remember what
truly satisfies you:
When do I notice feeling content because I’ve done something I want to do?
When do I notice feeling content because I’ve done something I need to do?
To help you
get curious
about creating a
meaningful life,
here are a few questions:
How often am I present right here, right now?
Am I attempting to balance the trivial many, or prioritizing the essential few?
Have I identified my inherent gifts, and am I using them to contribute to others?
Am I generous to others?
Am I aware of why I do what I do?
Do I make time for my passionate talents and favorite hobbies?
Do I spend my time with energizing people?
Do I give my dreams, goals, and positive thoughts as much air time as I devote to my frustrations, complaints, and gripes?
Am I grateful?
If we want
to be happy,
get in the habit
of solving for what prevents
you from:
enjoying your life
feeling satisfied
living a meaningful life
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
 

How To Finally Stop Overthinking

I’m thrilled to share with you a brilliant resource I just found:
Overcoming Overthinking, Ruminating, and Intrusive Thoughts Workbook
Licensed Therapist, Suzette Bray, shares her professional insights, tips, and strategies for overcoming these three unhelpful thought patterns. 
When we’re overthinking, we’re stuck in thinking about the future in the form of worries, what ifs, and worst-case scenarios. We likely experience “analysis paralysis” and may find it difficult to make decisions. 
Courtesy of L Suzette Bray, here are a few questions:
How often do you catch yourself in a “what if” thought loop?
How often do you second-guess or overanalyzeyour decisions?
When considering your future, how often are you imagining worst-case scenarios?
How difficult is it for you to move on after you make a decision?
Try this:
For 3 minutes, write down all of your worries, what ifs, and worse-case scenarios. When the timer goes off, say this to your brain:
“You’ve had your turn to overthink. Now we’re moving on.”
When we’re ruminating, we’re stuck in looping thoughts regarding things that have already happened in the past. Ruminating doesn’t solve anything - it keeps us stuck in resentment, regret, anger, and frustration. 
Here are a few questions:
Do you find yourself replaying past events over and over as you criticize your actions, words, or decisions?
How often do you dwell on past mistakes or regrets?
Do you tend to fixate on past conversations and imagine better responses?
When thinking about the past, do you get stuck in a loop?
Try this:
Get yourself back into the present moment by:
Getting up and moving
Smell something
Taste something
Listen to music or something comforting
Touch something like a pet or soft blanket
Look at something that delights you like pictures or something in nature
When we’re contending with intrusive thoughts, we may notice that disturbing, violent, or inappropriate thoughts pop into your mind seemingly out of nowhere, much like junk mail in your mailbox.  Intrusive thoughts don’t mean anything about your character. 
Here are a few questions:
Do you ever experience random, disturbing thoughts that pop up out of nowhere?
When you have an intrusive thought, how does it make you feel? Ashamed?
How often do you worry about the meaning of your intrusive thoughts?
Do you find yourself trying to suppress or push away these thoughts?
Try this:
Call out the thought:
“My brain is telling me that because my back hurts, I must be dying of cancer.”
Desribe the physical sensations that accompany the thought:
“There’s the whoosh of anxiety in my chest.”
Notice the time:
“I wonder how long the sensation will last this time.”
 
Here’s a link to buy a copy of Suzette Bray’s workbook:
Overcoming Overthinking, Ruminating, and Intrusive Thoughts Workbook
 
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

A Diagnosis Is Not a Label - It's A Plan

A diagnosis for a mental health disorder is not meant to label you or become part of your identity. A diagnosis is intended to provide you with the information you need to work with a professional to create a plan that will allow you to thrive as you curate a life that is sustainably satisfying to you.
 
Here’s how the Mental Health Management Group (MHMG) explains a diagnosis:
“A mental health diagnosis is a clinical assessment made by a mental health professional to determine whether a person meets the criteria for a specific mental health disorder or condition. Mental health diagnoses are based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which the American Psychiatric Association publishes.
A mental health diagnosis is made after a comprehensive psychiatric evaluation that includes a clinical interview, a review of the person’s medical history, and a discussion of their symptoms and impact on daily life. A mental health professional may also use standardized assessments and rating scales to help with the diagnostic process.
The purpose of a mental health diagnosis is to provide a framework for understanding a person’s symptoms and to guide the selection of appropriate treatments. It can also help mental health professionals communicate with each other about a person’s condition and ensure that they receive the most effective care.
It’s important to note that a mental health diagnosis is not a label or a judgment of a person’s character or worth. Instead, it is a tool to help mental health professionals provide the best care possible and improve a person’s quality of life.”
 
According to MHMG, here are some frequently asked questions:
1.Who can diagnose a mental health condition?
A mental health condition can be diagnosed by a licensed mental health professional, such as a psychiatrist, psychologist, clinical social worker, or professional counselor.
2.What are some common mental health diagnoses?
Some common mental health diagnoses include anxiety disorders, depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), eating disorders, and personality disorders.
3.How is a mental health diagnosis made?
The diagnostic criteria for mental health conditions are based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). A mental health diagnosis is typically made through clinical interviews, observations, and assessments. A mental health professional will gather information about a person’s symptoms, medical history, and family history. They may also use standardized assessments and rating scales.
4.Can mental health diagnoses change over time?
Yes, mental health diagnoses can change over time. As symptoms change, improve and evolve; a diagnosis may be revised or updated to reflect a person’s current condition. Additionally, some mental health conditions can be comorbid, meaning that a person may have more than one diagnosis simultaneously.  Mental health disorders, such as depression, PTSD, and anxiety, can also improve because of changes a person has made by developing improved coping skills, life circumstances, or advanced alternative treatments such as TMS or Ketamist (™), resulting in the remission of symptoms.
5.Should I be worried about getting a mental health diagnosis?
No, you should not be concerned about getting a mental health diagnosis. A mental health diagnosis is a tool to help mental health professionals better understand your symptoms and develop an appropriate treatment plan. Having a diagnosis can help you access the right treatments and support to manage your condition effectively. It’s important to remember that a diagnosis does not define you, and seeking help for mental health concerns is a sign of strength, not weakness.
 
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Just Do It Already!

If you were the main character in a movie of your life, what might the audience be yellling at you to finally do? Finally stop doing? Finally be or create?
I invite you to consider these questions:
When you think of your own “Just BLANK already”, what is preventing you from doing it?
How active is your Inner Critic?
Do you need a teacher, mentor, or coach to support your progress?
Are you focused on the end result or ruminating on the potential obstacles?
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

Why You Can't Build Momentum Unless You're in Motion

We don’t build momentum before we get “moving”. First, we get into motion, then we create momentum. 
Here are a few strategies to try in order to build momentum:
On paper, brainstorm any tasks you’ve been waiting to do until you build momentum or “feel” like it. 
Block off time on your calendar to focus. 
Practice the Pomodoro productivity technique:
Pomodoro Technique
Buy a time cube here:
Time Cube
Turn off noise so that you can tap into your inner, wise voice:
When you drive your car, do so without a podcast, music, or talking on the phone. 
Take a walk without listening to anything other than what’s in nature. 
I invite you to consider these questions:
How willing are you to experiment with the Pomodoro technique?
What might prevent you from doing so?
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

What's NOT Working In Your Life?

If you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself:
What’s working in my life so far this year?
What’s not working in my life?
I invite you to consider these questions:
How willing are you to ask for help and support if something isn’t working in your life?
What might prevent you from doing so?
When something isn’t working, how active or loud is your Inner Critic chatter?
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

How To Be Kind To Someone You Don't Like

When we don’t “like” someone, it’s often because we aren’t compatible with them or to them. It’s likely that our values, views, habits, passions, or priorities just don’t match. 
When you notice that you don’t like someone, try this:
“I’m noticing that I don’t like him/her. I wonder if it’s because we aren’t compatible.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice not wanting to spend time with certain people?
How willing are you to give yourself the permission to be incompatible with others?
When do you notice expecting others to change so that you will like them?
When do you notice forcing yourself to change so that others will like you?
How willing are you to dig a little deeper when you notice having resistance to another person?
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

When They CAN But Won't

Dr. Stuart Ablon, creator of Think:Kids, bases his work with “challenging” kids on this six-word philosophy: 
“Kids do well if they can.”
The implication in these six words is that kids want to do well but don’t have the skills to do so. 
Ablon is also the author of the book Change-able: How Collaborative Problem Solving Changes Lives at Home, at School, and at Work:
Change-able
Here’s a terrific interview with Dr. Ablon:
Rethinking Challenging Kids
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice wanting to do well yet lacking the skills to do so?
When do you notice wanting to do well yet being unwilling to make changes?
When do you notice getting frustrated with someone who wants to do well but can’t?
How do you tend to respond to someone who doesn’t want to change?
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory

When To Make a Clean Break

A “clean break” is a definitive end or intentional closure. We often avoid “clean breaks” in regard to habits, relationships, companies, or situations, because we are people pleasing or trying to control the thoughts or emotions of others. We mistakenly believe that the discomfort we’ll feel in the moment is not something that we can endure or handle. But, temporary discomfort will pale in comparison to long-term suffering. 
 
I invite you to consider these questions:
When do you notice avoiding a clean break?
What are you worried you might feel or experience with a clean break?
When do you notice using FOMO as an excuse to avoid a clean break?
 
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 
 
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 
 
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 
 
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
 
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com
 
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory